10 Irritating Behaviors that will Ruin Your Career

How many of these are you guilty of, from Jeff Haden's brilliant article? I used to be guilty of quite a few (and some of these I wasn't even aware of being bad, so I've since started to correct)...

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1. They thoughtlessly waste other people's time.
   • People who don't notice the small ways they inconvenience others tend to be oblivious when they do it in major ways.
   • Instead, behave as if the people around you have more urgent needs than yours.
2. They ignore people outside their "level."
   • Sometimes we ignore others because they don't "fit in."
   • Instead, nod when making eye contact, or say, "Hi." Or just act like people exist.
3. They ask for way too much.
   • Sometimes we forget that our needs are our problems. The world doesn't owe us anything - we aren't entitled to advice, mentoring, or success.
   • Instead, look out for yourself first. People tend to help those who help themselves or them first.
4. They ignore people in genuine need.
   • Some people aren't in a position to help themselves. Give them a hand.
5. They ask a question so they can talk.
   • Don't shoehorn in your own opinions under false pretenses.
   • Only ask questions if you genuinely want answers, and ask follow-up question to better understand.
6. They pull a "Do you know who I am?"
   • Sometimes we pull out some form of the "I'm too important for this" card.
   • Instead, don't act like you know you're "somebody" or that you're entitled.
7. They don't know when to dial it back.
   • Some people just can't stop "expressing their individuality" - even when its not appropriate.
   • Learn to know when a situation requires you to stop justifying words or actions with an unspoken, "Hey, that's just me being me."
8. They mistake self-deprecation for permission.
   • Sometimes self-deprecation is genuine, but it's often a mask for insecurity. Never assume it is permission for you to poke the same fun at him.
9. They humblebrag.
   • This is a form of braggin that tries to cover the brag with a veneer of humility, so it doesn't appear as bragging.
   • Instead, don't brag at all. Just be proud of your accomplishments and let others brag for you.
10. They push their opinions.
    • Instead, share your opinions only in the appropriate setting.
    • What you think is right for you may not be right for others - it may not even be right for you.