January 27, 2015

A How-To List for Dysfunctional Living by Richard Paul and Linda Elder

Today's entry, taken from an article called "Becoming a Critic of Your Thinking," really struck a chord with me (note that I referenced this article a few months back for some other great points). It is certainly a good reminder of how one should approach life. How many of the things on this list have I been guilty of? Too many, I'm afraid. How about you?
  1. Surround yourself with people who think like you.
  2. Don't question your relationships.
  3. If critiqued by a friend, look dejected and say, "I thought you liked me."
  4. When you do something unreasonable, always be ready with an excuse so you don't have to accept responsibility.
  5. Focus on the negative side of life.
  6. Blame others for your mistakes.
  7. Verbally attack those who criticize you.
  8. Go along with the groups you belong to.
  9. Act out if you don't get what you want.
  10. Focus on getting what you want.

January 20, 2015

January 14, 2015

Goals vs. Systems

Happy Wednesday!

Sorry I missed my usual Tuesday schedule, but I am in the process of moving residences. Very hectic. Not an excuse, just an explanation.

Today's post is based on "An Almost Foolproof Way to Achieve Every Goal You Set" by... you guessed it... Jeff Haden. I can't help it - the man always has something interesting to say!

A goal is what you wish to achieve. But a system is the process you use to achieve it. Ignoring goals and focusing only on the systems will yield better results. This is because:

  1. Goals reduce happiness
    • Goals require us to put off gratification until a milestone is reached.
    • Instead of committing to the goal, commit to the process.
  2. Goals are at odds with progress
    • When you finally achieve a goal, what is left to push you forward?
    • Goals are short-term oriented, whereas systems are long-term processes.
    • Instead of focusing on the need for results, focus on the process.
  3. Goals suggest you can control the uncontrollable
    • Setting goals is like trying to predict the future.
    • Instead, build a system that is more flexible and allows you to make adjustments.

January 6, 2015

"Don't confuse productivity with work."
- Unknown