Yet another great little information-packed
article by Jeff Haden. These nine points are good to keep in mind, be it casual conversation or a presentation to a packed auditorium. Here are the 9 Habits of Remarkably Persuasive People:
- They Take Bold Stands
- Humans prefer cockiness to expertise. We naturally equate confidence with skill.
- Be bold. Stop saying 'I think' and 'I believe' - instead just say 'It will.'
- They Adjust Their Rate of Speech
- If the audience is likely to disagree, talk faster - it gives less time to formulate counter-arguments.
- If they are likely to agree, speak slower - it gives more time to evaluate and factor into their own thoughts.
- They Start with Small 'Wins'
- Gaining agreement has an enduring effect.
- Start with statements or premises you know they will agree with to build a foundation of further agreement.
- They Occasionally Swear
- Tossing in an occasional and heart-felt curse word can show urgency and concern.
- Authenticity is more persuasive.
- They Know Their Audience
- Don't push for instant agreement if their personality style requires thinking time; likewise, don't hesitate if they don't require thinking time.
- They Share Positives and Negatives
- Sharing an opposing viewpoint or two is more persuasive.
- Very few ideas are perfect; sharing negatives shows understanding of potential misgivings.
- They Draw Positive Conclusions
- Positive-outcome statements are more persuasive than scare tactics.
- They Choose the Right Medium
- For example: men tend to feel competitive in person while women, the opposite.
- Most of All, They Make Sure They're Right
- Be clear, concise, and to the point.
- Make sure your data, reasoning, and conclusions are beyond reproach.